Chapter 19: Myth—Sexuality Doesn’t Matter

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Then there is Judah who unwittingly has sex with Tamar only to later

find out it was his daughter in law. What’s that all about? Did Tamar have her face hidden? If so, then Judah was only having sex and was certainly not into “making love.” One might erroneously conclude that we are not supposed to “make love” and that sex is again just a duty to “beget.” Still,

Judah thought he was engaging a prostitute and “getting it off” is all that mattered in such instances.

The same thing could not be said about Jacob and Leah. Jacob went

into his tent thinking he would be “making love” to Rachel. Laban, his father in law, substituted Leah. Yet, Jacob did not know until the next day when he woke up? What’s that all about? Was Jacob drunk? It is hard to imagine not having a face-to-face meeting in the bed. What about Leah’s voice and even her body size? Jacob had spent seven years of labor to earn

the right to Rachel. One might erroneously conclude once again that we are not supposed to “make love” and that sex is again just a duty to “beget.”

God Designed Women to Enjoy Sex!

If sex was just a duty to beget, then there is a serious discrepancy in

the design of the female body. For one, there is the female clitoris, which is a source of intense pleasure to women. So much so that some African tribes are given to the idea of circumcising women by cutting off the clitoris. The reasoning is simple; women should not have sexual pleasure. How twisted

is that logic? And the fact that such an evil practice exists is a testimony to the fact that God designed the female body to experience sexual pleasure.

Sex is not a sin unless it crosses the defined lines drawn by God Himself. The church cannot impose its “sex” sanctions on pleasure simply

out of the thought that if it feels good it must be sinful. God designed our bodies to enjoy sexual pleasures knowing it would “feel good.” Yet the enjoyment of our sexual pleasures can only be in the context of marriage. It is outside of this limited framework that God condemns the sexually

immoral. In the case of solitary sex, which is self contained, it is moral until it enters the heart and begins to function as a precursor of external sexual activity, which will lead to lewdness, lasciviousness and licentiousness.