Chapter 19: Myth—Sexuality Doesn’t Matter

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After reflecting upon who this woman was, our meeting and the talk

we had and all of her attributes, I was stunned by exactly how perfect she was in my eyes. Yet then, why wouldn’t she be? God had sent me to her. I could have dated 10,000 women and never found one that was such a perfect match. Well God, if this is my next wife, you’ll have to tell her at least as

much as you’ve told me. If not, guide me into the arms of who ever she is. We’ll see what the future brings in the next 14 months. The future? I give it fully over to God. I know He has the real plan. For now, you should realize these important facts about the choice of love, marriage and sex.

1. Love is a choice. 2. Marriage is a choice. 3. Sex is a choice. 4. Sexual freedom and true ecstasy is found in a marriage choice.

5. The choice to love is an ongoing choice every day of our lives. 6. The moment we choose to stop loving, the relationship ends. 7. The choice to love exists even if we temporarily dislike someone. 8. The love of God manifests itself in our obedience and respect.

9. The love of a spouse manifests itself in mutual love and respect.

In the four decades that Jackie and I were married, there were plenty of days when we didn’t particularly like each other. There were also times

when we didn’t particularly like the decision of the other person. Yet, there was never a single moment of time when we did not love each other. Love is a choice even during times when you might not like someone. Isn’t that what God does while He waits for someone to change their sexually

immoral behavior? Yes, He chooses to love you up to the time of judgment, even if He dislikes or hates the evil you are now engaged in on earth.

Those who have long lasting marriages understand that every day is a

day to choose to love. It’s the same thing with God. Every day I choose to love Him and to walk in His Spirit. When your love takes on the import of its daily choices, you will find yourself moving close to godlike behavior and you will find the freedom of married sex and the true ecstasy it offers.