Chapter 19: Myth—Sexuality Doesn’t Matter

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Both Jackie and I met God during our sexual intercourse. I remember

distinctly hearing her call out to God at times. “O God!” We never did talk about this so I am unsure about all that she talked to God about during sex. Maybe it was just a praise statement of thanks. Sounded like that to me. I can tell you that we had both invited Him into our bedroom and into our sex

lives. We never regretted the sexual freedom God gave us to experience and we fully enjoyed His gift of sex. The act of making love is different than the worldly act of having sex. The first is a spiritually based experience of mutually enjoying each other’s bodies and of giving and receiving pleasure

to one another. The latter is getting f#~~#d to use today’s sexual vernacular. It might describe the physical aspect of sex, but it leaves God out of the picture. Forty years ago, everyone used the spiritual language of “making love” to fully describe marital sex. Today? Marriage is left out of the talk.

The Penner’s pointed out the Song of Solomon in a discussion of oral sex in their book 36. I will quote briefly from their book.

“There is a great deal of interest in and at the same time a great deal of

doubt regarding this activity [oral sex]. Solomon in the Song of Solomon refers continually to enjoying the delights of his lover’s body. He speaks of feeding among the lilies (4:5). His partner says, ‘Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden that its fragrance may spread abroad.

Let my lover come into his garden and taste its choice fruits’ (4:16). In the following verse King Solomon says, “I have come into my garden. … I gather my myrrh with my spices. I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and my milk” (5:1). His love responds, ‘Eat,

O friends, and drink; drink your fill, O lovers.’ Many references speak of the oral delights of one’s lover and the enjoyment of her full body. Every part is talked about: hair, lips, neck, breasts, stomach, legs, and feet. The lovers usually refer to the genitals as ‘the garden of spices.’ The book

speaks of total body involvement.”

Indeed, in the Song of Solomon, we find the passion of lovers who would use their mouth, their lips and their tongue on their lover’s body.

They would engage all of their senses including hearing, taste, smell and touch. Yet to discuss such lovemaking would only be in spiritual terms.